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How to be more assertive is actually quite easy once you know what to say. Assertive communication is based on three things:

1) you summarize the other person’s behavior,
2) you let the other person know how you feel about it, and
3) you make a request on how the other person can specifically change that behaviour.

For example, a co-worker keeps parking in your designated space. You respond by saying, “When you park in my space (part 1) I feel frustrated because I have to go hunting for another spot and that makes me late for work (part 2). I need you to not park in my space (part 3). Remember these key words: state facts, feelings, and requirements.

Another key to learning assertive communication is calmness and clarity. You don’t call names or accuse the other person of anything insidious. Focusing on your feelings will help you to achieve your requirements and get a positive response from the person, rather than an aggressive response. If necessary, practice what you have to say in the mirror or with a friend or family member until you feel comfortable. Few people like confrontation, but it’s important to stand up for yourself and it will become easier the more you do it.

The attainable key to assertive communication is staying calm and sounding confident, even when you don't feel it 100%. This can be practised at a deep level using hypnosis, to condition your mind and body to having a positive experience of being assertive. Practising assertive communication using hypnosis allows you to visualise what it would be like to stay calm, even when someone tries to put you down, and continue getting your point across.

You can learn how to be more assertive. It may require you to come out of your comfort zone and communicate in ways you never have before, but you’ll find that the benefits are enormous. You won’t feel like a doormat anymore and your self-esteem will increase, too, because your taking positive steps for yourself.

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