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Improve Your Self Confidence in 15 Minutes
I used to be extremely under confident in social situations. And although
people who know me now would never believe I used to doubt myself, I literally
had to learn self confidence until it became a natural part of me. I can
tell you relaxed optimistic confidence is so much more fun, it's worth
the effort and anxiety as you improve your self confidence.
Here I'll tell you about the things that made the most difference
to my self confidence levels...
Some people have naturally high levels of self confidence but everybody
can learn to be more confident
Firstly, it's important to get a clear idea of what self confidence really
means, otherwise you won't know when you've got it! So, self confidence
means:
1) Being calm. For every situation in life you need to run on
the appropriate level of emotion. Too much emotional 'leakage' into a
experience can spoil the experience. You make great strides towards confidence
when you begin to relax in a greater range of situations.
2) Being cool. The second part of self confidence is about being
able to relax with uncertainty. To be 'cool' in a situation really means
relaxing with not knowing how things will pan out. If you truly tolerate
uncertainty, you can do pretty much anything.
3) Not being too concerned with what others think of you. You
know when you imagine what some place is going to be like before you go
there but when you get there it is totally different to your imagination?
That's how reliable your imagination is! Stop trusting your imagination
so much. I've long since stopped bothering to imagine what others think
of me because so often I've turned out to be wrong.
4) Being specific - where do you want confidence? 'Confidence'
is meaningless until you tie it to something specific. You are already
confident that you can read these words or can switch a light on and off.
So you don't need more confidence everywhere. To get what you want in
life you have to establish exactly what you do want. Where do you want
confidence in your life? Think about the specific situations now and write
them down. You beginning to steer your brain towards confidence.
5) Understanding that what you expect is what you get. Your brain
is an organ that needs clear goals to work towards. When a task has been
set in your brain it will do everything it can do to bring about the completion
of that task. If you've tried to recall someone's name but can't, hours
later you'll often find their name pops into your head.
The 'trying to recall' experience set the task or blueprint for your
brain's future subconscious behaviour which eventually produced the name
for you - when you weren't thinking about it consciously. You can use
this natural mechanism to start feeling more confident. But, to ensure
you set the right task for your subconscious mind, the next point is vital.
6) Don't task your mind with negatives. Instead of: 'I don't want
to screw up' (which sets the task of 'screwing up' for your brain), set
the blueprint for what you do want! Your brain doesn't work towards what
to do by being told what not to do. And nature has given you a wonderful
natural tool to set the right task blueprints with.
7) Use nature's goal-setter: Now you understand how vital it is
to set the right task for you brain, you need to know how to do this reliably.
Good hypnosis will strongly 'program' the right blueprint in your mind
through the use of your imagination. If you powerfully imagine feeling
confident and relaxed while in a relaxed hypnotic state it will be hard
for your unconscious mind to do anything else. The blueprint for relaxation
has been set firmly into your subconscious mind.
3 simple strategies to get you feeling confident quickly:
1) Think specifically of the time/place/situation you want to
feel confident in. Remember 'confidence' doesn't mean anything until you
attach it to something specific.
2) Focus on words in your mind right now that describe how you
do want to be in that time and place. Maybe words such as 'calm', 'relaxed'
or 'focused'. Remember your brain works on clear positive instructions.
3) Close your eyes for as long as you like and think about how
those words feel. Then, imagine the situation itself and rehearse it in
your mind feeling confident and relaxed. This way you set the right blueprint
or 'task' for your unconscious mind.
You can repeat this often to make it more effective and use it with as
many areas of your life as you need to. If you listen to a hypnotic cd
or download that can make the benefits even more powerful (see my profile
below). So if you feel like you'd be blessed with less confidence than
some other people you can start redressing the balance by using your mind
in the right way right now.
It took me years to learn how to be more confident - now you can do it
in a fraction of the time. Good luck!
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Article by Mark Tyrrell of Hypnosis
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